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Cassandra Sundaraja

About Cassandra Sundaraja

Cassandra has completed her Masters in Psychology (Clinical) from Christ University, Bangalore, and was working as a Consultant Psychologist, Hypnotherapist and Guest Lecturer. She has completed M.Phil in Clinical Psychology from the National Institute of Mental Health and Neuro Sciences (NIMHANS). Her areas of interest include developmental psychology and social psychology, while specific research interests include parenthood, cultural changes and its impact on family life, marital relationships, empathy (or the lack of it), the origins of violence and aggression, child sexual abuse, criminal behaviour, etc. In the past she was a freelance journalist for a nation-wide newspaper and also used to volunteer for a centre for the prevention and healing of child sexual abuse.

Managing Grief

       Meera stared at the family portrait on the wall, fighting to keep tears from welling in her eyes. It was hard for her to believe that the handsome man on the wall, her husband of 30 years was no more – lost to the menace they call cancer. Questions filled her mind, ‘What [...]

Forgiveness: Bitter Sweet Medicine

When I was dealing with my first marital infidelity case for therapy, the idea of forgiveness stuck out like a sore thumb – so crucial, yet ever so difficult. Since then, I have found this process of forgiveness to play a large role in my work with clients, and hence this blog. The notion of [...]

Perfectionism… Just Out of Reach!

There’s quite a thin and rather blurred line between “wanting to do something well” and “wanting to do something perfectly”. It’s interesting how much value society places on perfectionism – the perfect husband, he perfect wife, the perfect child, the perfect family the perfect student, the perfect teacher and so on. While it’s all well [...]

By | 2017-03-20T19:04:07+00:00 May 23rd, 2015|Success & Happiness|3 Comments

Loving Life

Do the numerous incidents of violence and aggression that scream for attention, make you stop to think about the value of life? Have we become so familiar with the loss of life that we fail to appreciate its beauty and vitality? There may be moments in this fast-paced materialistic world, where we feel insignificant, unloved, [...]

By | 2017-03-20T19:04:09+00:00 August 18th, 2013|Experiencing Life, Knowing Self|0 Comments

Why do Romantic Relationships end?

“I think a relationship is like a shark. It has to constantly move forward or it dies.” – Woody Allen How true! Have you ever wondered why is it that today, romantic relationships seem to be formed and broken at almost the same speed? While conducting a research in college a few years ago, I [...]

By | 2017-03-20T19:04:11+00:00 August 7th, 2013|Relationships|0 Comments

Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage?

I have heard this question put forth to me too many times to ignore it - which is better - love marriage or an arranged marriage? Well, to all of you out there who wonder, here is something for you... At the onset, I believe that the term ‘love marriage’ is a misnomer – is [...]

By | 2017-03-20T19:04:11+00:00 August 5th, 2013|Relationships, Success & Happiness|0 Comments

Is Marriage for me?

The sacred institution of marriage that has governed and influenced our lives for centuries, now has begun to be questioned and is perhaps losing the respect it was once held. Recently a young man in his early thirties was explaining to me why exactly marriage was not his cup of tea. ‘I have seen several [...]

By | 2017-03-20T19:04:11+00:00 August 3rd, 2013|Knowing Self, Relationships|0 Comments

Managing the little red demon within

Something has snapped! Your blood pressure increases dramatically and your breathing becomes rapid. For a few moments it feels that all logic and reasoning is lost on your brain as you fight to gain control. Your eyes widen and your nose flares. All this happens in a fraction of a second and before you gain [...]

By | 2017-03-20T19:04:14+00:00 August 1st, 2013|Understanding Emotions|0 Comments